6 Things You Should Stop Expecting From Others

By : Stan, 03 Nov 2014 The only way we can avoid other people’s impact on our lives is to stop being part of the social reality as we know it. In other words – other people’s impact on our lives is unavoidable. However, it is up to us to either let it determine our every action or to choose not to let it interfere with our own behavior and the way we handle things. Of course, the first option doesn’t exactly sound like a recipe for a happier and less complicated life. So let’s take a closer look at how to get rid of the heaviness of non-stop consideration of others. You are your own worst enemy. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find th

Matt Cutts: Try something new for 30 days

Is there something you've always meant to do, wanted to do, but just ... haven't? Matt Cutts suggests: Try it for 30 days. This short, lighthearted talk offers a neat way to think about setting and achieving goals. Watch the Video

What's Wrong With Criticism

How to ruin a perfectly good relationship. Published on April 18, 2014 by Steven Stosny, Ph.D. in Anger in the Age of Entitlement “Criticism is the only reliable form of autobiography," Oscar Wilde said, because it tells you more about the psychology of the critic than the people he or she criticizes. Astute professionals can formulate a viable diagnostic hypothesis just from hearing someone's criticisms. Criticism is also the first of John Gottman’s famous Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, which he has used to predict divorce with over 90 percent accuracy. It's the most apocryphal, as the other three tend to follow from it—stonewalling, defensive, and contemptuous partners almost invariably

The Parable of Two Angels

Scene: Two Angels, a woman running to work, steep staircase. - Push her, push her, I’m telling you! - The staircase is really steep, she is going to be killed! - I will watch out for her, she will only break her leg! - That’s terrible, she needs to go to work, she has already been late for three days in a row! - Yes, and now she is going to be on sick leave for at least 3 weeks. She is going to be fired later. - You can’t do this, what is she going to do without her job? And the salary is really good. - I’m telling you, push her, I’ll explain later! Same two Angels, highway, two women in a company car going at a really high speed. In front of the car is a truck loaded with logs. - Throw a lo

How Do We Find Meaning in Life?

by Eric Barker, Times, Nov 17, 2014 Human beings certainly gravitate to religion and it seems we all have an tendency to believe in some sort of karma. Your mind may require meaning. Studies show it’s one of the key factors underlying happiness and motivation. So what is meaning in life and what does research say about how we might be able to find it? Stories Studies have shown that stories are key to some of the most fundamental parts of our lives: increasing happiness, group solidarity and meaning in life. Some research indicates that to have meaning in your lifeyou must have a story. You need to reflect on how things could have been and why they turned out the way they did. Seeing that th

How to Resolve Your Problems

by Julia Lyubchenko The roots of our problems as well as our victories grow from our beliefs. No matter what the problem is, it can be resolved and each of us can do on our own. It requires a courage to separate ourselves from our mind, in other words to understand the fact that our beliefs are not who we are. This is the most important and at the same time the most difficult task. What we know ‘for sure’ often doesn’t represent neither the ‘truth’ nor our conscious choice, in many cases it is not even something useful for us. A human being is a clean sheet of paper and the first part of his life is written not by himself. We come to this world with a clean sheet of our own life story which

The Parable of the Apple Tree

Once upon a time there was an apple tree which God had created. It was a young tree without any leaves or fruit. One night the young tree saw the brilliant stars and was very unhappy. He wished for himself to have these sparkling stars on his branches so that he too would be beautiful. The next morning, God noticed that the tree was unhappy, and He said to him, "Let me make something for you. I will dress you up in a beautiful mantle of green so that you will be beautiful to behold. Then you will not be so unhappy." But the tree was not content with God's plan. "I do not want a mantle of green, I want stars." The next morning the tree saw that God had not given him stars, but green leaves. A

Mark Gungor - How Man and Women keep score

Mark Gungor discusses his views of how men and women think and relate differently - and how to handle those differences in marriage. Agree or disagree, the ideas are thought-provoking.

A Pound of Red Apples (A Story About Relationships)

by Julia Lyubchenko Imagine that you have a friend named Mary. Mary has 3 green apples, but you need a pound of red apples. Logically it would have made sense to go to the market and buy a pound of red apples from someone who is ready to sell you a pound of red apples, but the market is too far and who knows if there are apples there at all? What if it is closed down for inventory or maintenance? Meanwhile your friend Mary is here, right in front of you and she is cool. So you make a brave assumption that somewhere Mary should have a pound of red apples. Deep in her heart. You also believe that if you apply necessary efforts, she will give them to you, which is what you really want. “Hey

Don't Marry Your Soul Mate

by Brooke Hampton. Huffingtonpost 10/20/2014 I realize that this is probably not going to be my most popular post, but it's what I feel needs to be said, so here you go. I'm not a big fan of marriage. I think marriage takes really talented dreamers and creative beings that are capable of creating real change and puts them inside this widely accepted institution of marriage, where they will then spend most of their time, emotions, magic, and valuable energy trying to be "good" citizens and live up to the impossible "perfect marriage/perfect family" illusion that has been so successfully placed in our heads. Marriage also has the potential to produce a lethal feeling that we now have ownership

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